I am a mom and wife. I am a Christian. My husband and I are co-founders of Eagle Wings Ranch in Newcastle, Oklahoma. I am the Director. Eagle Wings Ranch is a small horse rescue whose mission is to empower people to overcome challenges and find healing and truth through ministry, authentic relationships, mentoring, and interaction with our rescued horses. We accomplish this by using God's gift of the horse to visually demonstrate faith-based principles.
I am also an attorney and I spent 17 years practicing law full-time. My love of helping people caused me to want to remain connected to the legal profession while still running the Ranch full-time.
I spent most of my law career fighting people's battles in a courtroom. I enjoyed the courtroom, but most of my clients did not. Once you enter the courtroom, the outcome is out of your hands and in the hands of the judge and jury.
My natural bent is to be a peacemaker and in hopes of finding a kinder, gentler way and helping people find a resolution that they had ownership in, I decided to be certified as a mediator.
Types of Mediation
Motor Vehicle Accidents
Divorce mediation is about you and your soon to be ex-spouse deciding your own divorce and what is best for the both of you and most importantly, your children. In mediation, you and your spouse meet with a neutral third party, the mediator, and with their help, you work through the issues you need to resolve so the two of you can end your marriage as amicably and cost effective as possible.
It is the mediators job to keep the lines of communication open, brainstorm ideas, reality test the couple, teach empathy and assist the couple in their decision making process. Mediators help keep the couple focused on the issues at hand, trying not to get them off track.
Mediation is flexible and confidential. It gives you and your spouse a way to settle the conflict between you in a way that helps you to work together as parents. This is extremely important if you have children and must interact with your ex-spouse after you are divorced.
A divorce mediator is neutral and doesn't "work" for either parent. That means the mediator can not give advice to either party. They must remain neutral no matter what the situation.
What the mediator can do, though, is assist the divorcing couple in formulating ideas that can eventually lead to agreements that will stand the test of time. That open and free exchange of information frees up both spouses to negotiate with each other in confidence. Because both spouses are working with the same base of information, it usually takes far less time to negotiate a resolution that makes sense to both spouses.
A typical car accident mediation will begin with an introductory session in the presence of the mediator and both parties (you and your attorney, and the other driver or his or her insurance company representative).
Once the mediation begins, the mediator will first inform the parties of preliminary matters and their rights. The mediator will tell the parties that any statements made during the mediation are confidential, which means they can't be used against them at court.
After the introductory session, the mediation can proceed either in a single room or separately in different rooms. The parties will present their statements on the case and describe the dispute. Then, the mediator will sometimes hold private caucuses in separate rooms. The mediator will usually go back and forth to ask each party to present their best offer for settlement and the reason why such offer is fair and reasonable.
The mediator can only disclose that information that you agree to disclose. The mediation is confidential and cannot be used against you if the matter does go to trial.
If offers made by both parties are somewhat close, the mediator will suggest both parties to come to an agreement by meeting halfway. If the offers are too far apart, the mediator will suggest both parties either (1) reconsider their decision and come up with a new proposal, or (2) terminate the mediation and proceed with a lawsuit.
Family property and financial disputes, whether presented in the context of a suit for partition, a corporate fight, or a probate or trust case, are matters of the heart and the law. They present challenges for how emotions and family dynamics are to be weighed against and balanced with legal rights and obligations.
A judicial decision may not address the underlying family conflict or fully resolve the dispute. The desire to resolve the conflict and preserve the family relationship is deeply embedded. In most family disputes there is a dissonance between wanting to win by being proven right and desiring to make peace within the family. The role of the mediator is to help the peace motivation prevail.
The participants in a family property or money dispute are more likely to reach a satisfactory agreement by talking and exploring options with the help of a mediator than they are by going through a judicial procedure in which a decision is imposed on them, whether by judicial decree or by an outcome negotiated by their lawyers.
Blame and anger beget blame and anger. In mediation blame and anger can be lessened through understanding, and the parties are encouraged to develop a commitment to the process and to the agreement that they structure.
Mediation is a proven way to avoid the long-term adverse consequences of litigating family property, inheritance, and trust disputes.
When a terminated or current employee asserts a claim against an employer, it is frequently in the best interests of both sides to attempt to resolve the matter early through mediation. The mediation process gives the employee an opportunity to express how they believe they were wronged and to vent emotions. It gives the employer the opportunity to hear the emotion behind the legal argument. It also gives the employer the ability to voice their side of the story and explain their position under the law.
Mediation allows the parties to retain control over the outcome. Mediation requires far less in legal fees and other costs as compared to the expense of litigation. The mediation process and procedure is private and confidential, and confidentiality agreements can keep other employees from knowing about a particular settlement.
Not only is mediation especially effective in dealing with the myriad of legal, factual and emotional issues that are present in a dispute. It also provides a cost effective and mutually satisfying way of negotiating what are otherwise difficult disputes.